Who’s Inside Your Head? Discovering and Loving Your Inner Aspects
Do you know who resides inside your head? Do you love them, even the ones that are sad, scared, slimy, or selfish?
Understanding and embracing the different parts of yourself—your inner aspects—can transform inner turmoil into inner peace. It can be an infinite adventure of self-discovery, revealing the richness of who you truly are.
Why Know Your Inner Aspects?
Empowering Conscious Choice
Knowing who is inside your head empowers you to make conscious choices rather than reacting unconsciously. This awareness helps you navigate life's challenges with intention and clarity.
Enhancing Creativity and Flexibility
Understanding your inner aspects supports greater creativity and flexibility, especially in the bedroom. It can transform your intimate experiences into a form of role play based on deep intimacy and authenticity.
Start Your Inner Journey
Want to know more about your inner aspects? Begin by making a list and keep expanding it over time. This list will grow and evolve throughout your lifetime.
How to Start:
Make a List: Write down your inner aspects. The list below can give you some ideas. This list is infinite, and you'll be adding to it across your lifetime.
Talk to a Friend or Beloved: If you like, share your list with someone you trust to get additional ideas. Don't worry about getting the "right" name. Whatever feels right is right, and you can change it later.
Common Inner Aspects
Typical Inner Aspects:
The Inner Critic: The voice that judges and criticizes.
The Outer Critic: Criticizes others rather than oneself.
The Rebel (or Rebel Teen): Resists authority and norms.
The Romantic Lover (Innocent First Love): Yearns for idealized love.
The Reactive Fighter (Killer, Warrior, Assassin): Responds aggressively to perceived threats.
The Saboteur: Avoids intimacy and personal healing or may test or ally with others.
The Nurturer for Others (Mother/Father, Caregiver): Shows up primarily for others' needs.
The Monster: Represents parts of ourselves we reject or fear.
The Youngling Self: Inner young selves from various stages of childhood.
Leader, Teacher, Guide, Dominant: Takes charge and leads.
Follower, Student, Guided, Submissive, Server: Prefers to follow and be guided.
The Prostitute: Compromises integrity for money or security.
The Sacred Prostitute or Priest/ess of Love & Eros: Represents divine love and sacred sexuality.
The Healer: Can be a shaman, priest/ess, or scientific healer.
The Perfectionist: Demands perfection, often stalling action.
The Inner Masculine/Feminine: Male or female identified inner aspects regardless of biological gender.
The Dancer: The artist, channeling spirit through movement.
The Generous Friend: Offers support and kindness to others.
The One Who is Committed to Making a Difference: Driven by purpose and impact.
The Artist: Creator and maker, expressing creativity in various forms.
The Selfish One: Focuses on personal needs and desires.
The Primal: Represents our inner animal instincts, predator or prey.
The Advice Giver/The Fixer: Likes to solve problems and tell others what to do.
Essential Inner Aspects (Often Found Through Soul Retrieval):
The Nurturing Self: Provides self-compassion and care.
The Wisdom Keeper: Holds wisdom and higher knowledge.
The Loving Inner Mother/Father: Provides parental love and support.
The Integrating Self: Acts as the ruler of the inner realm, balancing all aspects.
The Successful Entrepreneur: Drives ambition and success.
The Financial Advisor: Manages financial decisions and stability.
The Creative One: Brings creativity and innovation.
The Healthy Boundary Setter/Advocate: Establishes and maintains healthy boundaries.
The Visionary: Sees future possibilities and guides direction.
The Sacred Lover: Attunes to self and others in sacred union.
The Manifestor: Brings dreams and goals into reality.
The Researcher/Field Observer: Gathers information and observes without bias.
Creating Your Inner Aspect Deck of Cards
Once you have a list, transfer each aspect onto an index card. You can draw, collage, or add photos to personalize each card.
With an Inner Aspect Deck of Cards, you can play games to expand your erotic life, deepen intimacy, reclaim joy and wonder, and even heal from the past.
Conclusion
Sending you so much good energy for your inner research! Embrace this journey of self-discovery and transformation. Knowing and loving the parts of yourself—both the Radiant and the Deep Shadow—can lead to profound healing and a more authentic, fulfilling life.
